I just watched the movie Bully and realized a few things. The first being that it was a small glimpse into what we’ve probably already known . The second being that bullying doesn’t stop in grade school. Well for some it does, and for others the unhappy children they were, turn into unhappy adults. Before I continue I would like to address and thank the continued support I’ve received online, in social media like facebook and twitter, and through emails and community events. There are a lot of you that get it. That positivity is why I’ve waited so long to address the other side of things. A lot of young people are my audience, I’ve ranked #1 in the youngest demographic for listeners since I’ve been on air, and have rated exceptionally well with women ages 18-34. That being said, a lot of women and young kids ask for advice, and I usually say something positive, encouraging, diplomatic and move on. What I don’t say is what I am about to say now.
The bullying that you experience, the negativity it doesn’t stop. It keeps happening. I am almost 30 years old and STILL receive derogatory attention on facebook and twitter. Just last week I received an email from an individual who took the time to call me “whore” “photoshopped” “slut” and the concluded that at least my calendar was for a “good cause”. (my youngest brother is autistic, and ALL proceeds from sales benefit children like him) In the midst of my RAK (Random Act of Kindess) push I was scrutinized for publicly acknowledging people for doing good deeds, because that’s “not what it’s supposed to be about”. Most recently I have been targeted on twitter by three women who find it purely entertaining to make claims about my personal life that are untrue, biased, and hurtful…and it’s been happening for years. These people are NOT the majority, and aren’t even the people that matter, so for a very long time I’ve turned the other cheek, because that’s what “strong” people do.
And that’s how we got HERE.
NO MORE turning the cheek. Shame on these adults who continue to feed into gradeschool behavior! Yes, I see what you say. Yes, I’ve read what you wrote. And it’s wrong. And mean. I need for all the kids and women who think that I don’t feel what you feel to know, that I can RELATE. Though I don’t enjoy giving these people the time of day, I do want to address them directly. BULLYING is not flying under the radar anymore. What do you get out of the mean things you say? Why are you so tortured? What happened to you and why are you so unhappy that you would go out of your way to hurt others? The women who attack me online because of how I look, what I do or who I know, are seemingly, beautiful, college educated and some MOTHERS! How is it justifiable to you to go around being so ugly? We won’t all be friends with another, we don’t even have to get along but why bully? I am a friend, a sister, a daughter just like you. THAT we DO have in common. When did I become not human?
I am using my voice to say shame on us as adults for encouraging one another in this type of environment, where its okay to call one another extremely hurtful things because its online. Our kids and siblings are watching, and they’re suffering because of it. I’m standing up for the silent. Move ON. GROW UP.
to all of my young supporters who are currently in this situation, use YOUR voice. SPEAK UP. and NEVER stop. nothing is as perfect as it seems, but we can all make a difference together. If you don’t like me, him or her, or whoever…FINE, leave them alone. go the other way. but let the bullshit you project, DIE…and let the rest of us LIVE.
This article was written by Lady La